MOST ARCHITECTS IDENTIFY AS INTROVERTS
However, the corporate world is structured to favor an extroverted persona. It’s stressful and takes a lot of energy to try and force yourself into that mold as an introvert. Working the room at networking events, conferences, or corporate socials feels overwhelming and exhausting. Dealing with dominant personalities who view processing as a sign of weakness is frustrating. Proactively addressing aggression and conflict triggers a trauma response that siphons away your emotional intelligence.
First, they have to like you
I had a boss who used to say this before we went into every project interview. It’s true. People hire people. People want to work for people. Not credentials or accomplishments or skill sets. Sure those things matter, but not as much as you might think.
Introverts hide behind a veil of perfectionism because it feels safer than having to risk being vulnerable. We fear being rejected on a primal level and that dims our light.
Let me show you how to magnetize people to you. How to light up the room without clamoring to be the center of attention. This course is your gamechanger.
Introverts are highly sensitive and empathic. They are deliberate and thoughtful. They have a growth mindset and are curious about the world. I’ve designed this course to help you leverage those attributes and rise above the noise so you can shine.
I got you. As an introvert myself, I remember how painful it was when I was told I was the one with the problem. Being pushed to just “suck it up” and engage in transactional social exchanges felt awful. There was a huge integrity gap between the interactions I was having and the ones I wanted to have. This prevented me from showing up as my authentic self and actually repelled people. It made me feel like the victim of “mean bullies” and “cool kids” who didn’t want to let me into their inner circle. Can you relate to any of these introvert coping mechanisms:
Overperforming and constantly proving yourself through external performance measures. Your know it all vibe makes you unapproachable and makes people feel like you are shutting down their ideas. Most introverts do this because they themselves feel shut down and they are trying to “win” the war of ideas decisively.
Seeking validation by chasing down specialty certifications, awards and recognition. You never feel good about where you are now or at ease in the current situation because you never feel good enough no matter how much you accomplish.
Shutting down and deciding you don’t care. Whenever possible you just don’t engage. You stare off in the distance or busy yourself with the food line or your phone at social events. Even though you are intelligent, fun and witty, only people who know you well see that side of you. Your business associates probably think you have the personality of a grapefruit.
Boring everyone because you’re always talking shop. Even business meetings need a little breathing room for purely social interaction. But these are the things you can discuss with ease, so you dive right into the deep end and might even lack the situational awareness to notice your audience is tuning out. Let’s face it- you are no fun.
COURSE CONTENT
You’ll get 12 lessons you can access on demand. Each lesson is 15-20 minutes long and builds on the last so you can easily master these skills! These structured master steps are formatted as doable chunks to fit into your hectic life. Feel seen and heard, have clear boundaries, manage conflict, and foster an inclusive culture on your teams.
- MODULE 1: Turn on your light- feel comfortable being visible.
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Speak up strategically
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The 10 percent edge
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Lead with the message
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- MODULE 2: Build your boundaries – everything from how you want to be treated to what you are available to do.
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Stop overperforming
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Ask for the opportunity
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Moving past validation
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- MODULE 3: Emotional Intelligence- learn how to navigate difficult people and contentious situations without being triggered.
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Stop proving your worth
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Go from defense to offense
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Read the room
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- MODULE 4: Collaborate like a boss- engage others and draw out their potential, let go of control and create the psychological safety to express diverse ideas.
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Create psychological safety
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Build rapport – vulnerability and authenticity
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Motivate and leverage skills and interests
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FAST ACTION BONUSES
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